Are we all in a box with sexual purity?
Last Sunday, I went hiking with my friend. On our way back home, we began discussing relationships and the challenge of sexual purity.
This kind of conversation is becoming extinct. Maybe? Many think conversations like this are familiar among the “Spirikokos” or SU sisters and brothers. Well, probably, you could as well refer to me as one for this discussion.
So here is what I have noticed about sexual purity
We the millennials find the place of sexual purity as an oddity. Today, most people believe in the norm. “So long he (She) is your boyfriend (girlfriend), you can give your bodies to one another.” Some even buttress by saying, “a lot of people are happily married today, even though they had premarital sex and aborted pregnancies before being legally married.” After all, we need to express our intimacy and love for our boyfriends, girlfriends, and fiancé(e)s.
However, in this discussion, the challenge is not with the change in social norms and how adaptive we are to the trends. Rather, the challenge is with young men and women who want to keep the bed undefiled.
I must confess, this is a real struggle!
Having conversations with some friends a while ago, I came to a conclusion that it is difficult to find men who are 100% gunning for sexual purity. The same goes for women. But for those who want to abide and live a sexually pure life before marriage, what then, should be our resolve?
I believe this should be done
To avoid the box and not follow the “norm,” there are certain conversations we must have with our boyfriends, girlfriends, or fiancé(e)s before we agree to court or date. Before these conservations, promising and committing to oneself is the first step. As Daniel in the Holy Bible said, I have purposed in my heart to not defile myself with the King’s meat, we can also say same to maintaining sexual purity.This is because it would help us to be steadfast even at the slightest provocation.
Then proceed by questioning his or her take regarding sexual purity. We need to be sure that the person we are planning to be in a relationship with is on the same page with us before we agree to proceed.
Aligning with the principles of sexual purity could be tough in this age and time. But it takes our commitment, obedience, and steadfastness. Above all, we need the grace of God to doing this.